Getting sex into balance with the rest of our lives. New ways of understanding our sexuality, sexual nature & drive. Advice & help on sex & sexual problems.
A visitor to this world from another planet, would not take long to realise that we are totally obsessed (taken up) by sex. Magazines, adverts, TV, films, video, the internet, books.
And the picture shown to us by these things is usually twisted.
Is this how sex is meant to be?
Sex is powerful. So is electricity. Electric power can be dangerous, if it does not run in the correct channels, and if safety procedures are not used. Sex is the same. Many of our problems about sex come because we do not understand the purpose of sex, and how it should be used. Here are four statements we need to get a clearer picture of sex.
If God made it, has He given instructions on how to use it? Yes - the Bible contains lots of teaching on sex and relationships. And lots of common sense advice on dealing with the opposite sex, and temptation. It is not just a list of 'don't do this' - but an explanation of how sex was made to be used.
Here is such simple advice on how men and women should treat each other:
"Treat younger men as you would your own brother, and treat older women as you would your own mother. Show the same respect to younger women that you would to your sister."
This beautifully sums up in a few words, a whole new way of treating the opposite sex as people, indeed as very special people.
Ten years ago, advice like this would have been laughed at. Now with the dangers of AIDS, people are looking again at the whole world of sexual behaviour. In one country, there is a new 'JUST SAY NO' movement among young people, who have decided to commit themselves on paper, to hold sex until marriage!
You are responsible for your life, and deciding how to behave. But have a frame-work for these decisions! Work out what your reactions will be to different situations. Often, when you are in the situation, it is too late!
Most of us have messed up on sex one way or another. But the brilliant news is:
God can forgive you. He can give you power to understand and handle sex in the best way.